I on my boyfriend’s family vacation. He left a day early and didn’t even say bye. Should I leave or stay?
Sunday, January 4th, 2009
Andrea J asked:
We took seperate cars because he had to drive a van down full of smokers and I don’t smoke. It’s HIS family vacation. HIs parents paid for everything and rented a huge house on the beach for $8,000. The adults made plans to go out to dinner. He felt he really wasn’t invited when he was. They were going for a buffet. I really wanted to go. He said go if you want I am not hungry. So, I went. It felt a little strange to not be with him because they were all coupled up. When I got back he didn’t even talk to me so I played uno with the rest of his family. This morning I went out to meet him on the deck and he still wasn’t talking to me. I asked why he isn’t talking to me and his response was ‘get used to it.’ Then, his parents took us all out for breakfast. I saved a table. The ‘clique’ he was hanging out with (his sister and her daughter and boyfriend.) all said - oh - we’r sitting here - and sat somewhere else. His parents looked very hurt at his behavior. I was left to sit by myself until two others in the group joined me. I was a little mad and embarrassed. When we arrived back at the house, he just packed up his stuff and took off in an angry hurry. He didn’t even say bye to me or anything. I thought he got mad because I went to dinner without him (after he said it was ok - of course.) The ‘daughter and her boyfriend’ who used to be friendly with me all of a sudden got weird too. They left with him. When I asked what happened they said he is mad because the family is all doing there own thing and it’s not what they expected a family vacation to be.HIs parents did say in the invite that the first night we’d be together then we would fend for ourselves. We did have a few family dinners and B-day party as a family. Day trips and activities were largely done as groups and not family. We did do one activity together but then he got mad that we didn’t stick together and we branched out into three groups. It was five families all together. He was mad because all the families did their own thing and he thought it was a ‘family’ vacation. ANYWAY - what do you make of all this? Since he left me here is it proper manners for me to stay or should I leave? Why do you think he ditched me like that anyway? Did I do something wrong?
His family says he ruined his own good time and it’s on him and that he is moody. Is it strange that I am still here and he isn’t? What would you do when you get back home - I live with him?
we’ve also been together 5years.
How about his reaction to the whole family thing - is he right or wrong?
He’s had outbursts before - just not this bad
Man
We took seperate cars because he had to drive a van down full of smokers and I don’t smoke. It’s HIS family vacation. HIs parents paid for everything and rented a huge house on the beach for $8,000. The adults made plans to go out to dinner. He felt he really wasn’t invited when he was. They were going for a buffet. I really wanted to go. He said go if you want I am not hungry. So, I went. It felt a little strange to not be with him because they were all coupled up. When I got back he didn’t even talk to me so I played uno with the rest of his family. This morning I went out to meet him on the deck and he still wasn’t talking to me. I asked why he isn’t talking to me and his response was ‘get used to it.’ Then, his parents took us all out for breakfast. I saved a table. The ‘clique’ he was hanging out with (his sister and her daughter and boyfriend.) all said - oh - we’r sitting here - and sat somewhere else. His parents looked very hurt at his behavior. I was left to sit by myself until two others in the group joined me. I was a little mad and embarrassed. When we arrived back at the house, he just packed up his stuff and took off in an angry hurry. He didn’t even say bye to me or anything. I thought he got mad because I went to dinner without him (after he said it was ok - of course.) The ‘daughter and her boyfriend’ who used to be friendly with me all of a sudden got weird too. They left with him. When I asked what happened they said he is mad because the family is all doing there own thing and it’s not what they expected a family vacation to be.HIs parents did say in the invite that the first night we’d be together then we would fend for ourselves. We did have a few family dinners and B-day party as a family. Day trips and activities were largely done as groups and not family. We did do one activity together but then he got mad that we didn’t stick together and we branched out into three groups. It was five families all together. He was mad because all the families did their own thing and he thought it was a ‘family’ vacation. ANYWAY - what do you make of all this? Since he left me here is it proper manners for me to stay or should I leave? Why do you think he ditched me like that anyway? Did I do something wrong?
His family says he ruined his own good time and it’s on him and that he is moody. Is it strange that I am still here and he isn’t? What would you do when you get back home - I live with him?
we’ve also been together 5years.
How about his reaction to the whole family thing - is he right or wrong?
He’s had outbursts before - just not this bad
Man